Letting go can be a very difficult thing to do. Especially when you have grown to love someone. It is a painful process because it’s literally like trying to cut something off of you that has become a part of you. To actually remove something attached to your flesh requires surgery and can be painful. You may have to be put to sleep and when you wake up, you’re often in pain. The healing has to occur over several weeks and sometimes months.
No one likes the feeling of letting go. It’s painful, uncomfortable and many times forces you to have to be challenged within the mist of pain. If it’s your leg or arm, you won’t be able to move as swiftly or at all due to pain or you won’t be able to write affectively or pick up things as you normally would.
It’s painful and uncomfortable.
But after that healing takes place, you’re in much better shape. You dreaded the process but you learn that it was worth it. The previous problem that you had before the surgery is no longer there. In fact you are in better shape.
Letting go is a tough process but you come out better.
Personally, I’ve had to let go too many times and I’m still letting go. We often have a hard time because we want something that resembles something we’ve had before or something we deeply desire. Often it’s hard to let go because what we are holding onto is just an illusion of the true reality and that is that what we want to keep is not really that great, otherwise we wouldn’t feel a need to hold on to it so tight.
If he’s worth it, his love for you and your love for him won’t be an anxiety. It will be free. You could miss him in an honest way but it’s unhealthy to miss him when he’s only at work or in the other room. That is you trying to replace an emptiness within you…a void.
And because voids can’t be filled but only dealt with, we constantly look for something or someone to fill it.
The reality is that some things may never change. If you grew up without a father, that has permanently shaped your life and you can ask God to lead you to having healthy friendships with men and to show you how to deal with this void.
But it’s important that you let go and not keep trying to fill the void. The void isn’t just men either. It could be sex, drinking, pornography or anything that wouldn’t allow you peace but destruction.
“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.”
C. Joybell. C